Your House, Your Rules
Updated: Feb 26, 2019
I am rule follower. I always have been. I used to get caught up in rules and couldn't sway from them. Luckily, I have worked on myself (a lot) and I have adapted and transformed. Yes, I said it, transformed! The beauty of age is that we start to get wiser, if we want to at least.
As I mentioned before, I have caught the Marie Kondo bug and my kids keep poking fun asking me if things "spark joy". I know her rules and order of doing things, but honestly for me, I had to adapt her rules to fit in my life. I know the benefit of seeing everything at once, but if you only have an hour to put focus on something, I see that tackling one little piece of that puzzle is better than nothing at all. My house, my rules, oh and my sanity.
Cooking is a great example of what I am talking about. When Joel and I first got married, I did not cook. Not even a little bit. We ate out every single meal. As I started to try to learn to cook, I thought if there was something exact in a recipe, it had to be exact or I couldn't make it. Wow, that was tough! Eventually, I learned that you could adapt, swap, or omit items from recipes for what you have on hand, more readily available, or more cost effective. This is a skill that my kids just have and I love it. Since they are bakers, they are constantly subbing things in and out and trying to make things work. I can honestly say, this is something that makes me so proud. Just last weekend, Quinlan made a cake that looked like a peppermint patty. We did not have a lot of what the recipe called for, but we had plenty of baking supplies. She ended up going with the idea but using three different recipes to pull together what we had. I didn't try it, but I can tell you it is gone and I hear it was delicious.
My food rules are pretty strong. This works for me because I am a rule follower. After my youngest, Grey was born I was having a lot of joint pain...waking up in the night with my elbows and wrists just killing me. I read a book while I was on a business trip and decided right then and there to switch to eating paleo. It works best for me if I can clearly identify the rules and those rules are mostly how I have lived for about seven years now. I also no longer have joint pain unless of course I go to Lincoln Wine Bar and eat Pizza-worth it! I recently switched up a couple of rules, like eating rice, oatmeal and quinoa. This really made my family happy because they love these things and I really couldn't name any negative effects on me. Joel made a family favorite earlier this week, rice pilaf. The rules are not so clear for everyone else and it sparked a bit of a disagreement when I wouldn't eat this "rice". This was a little tricky to grasp because to them, it was rice, but to me, it was rice with pasta which I am just not willing to do. My point here, these are my rules that work for me, not anyone else's rules.
My work rules.
I have been working from home for about seven years now and I love it! It seems that working from home can be either a love it or hate it kind of thing based on your personality. Part of what makes it work for me: RULES! I have a lot of them and they help me be successful. I really know my own strengths and weaknesses and how to get the most out of my day. The following are some of my rules, but of course, I am constantly tweaking them:
1. Always get dressed. Yes, when I won't see anyone, it's probably jeans and a sweatshirt. Or a "dressy" sweatshirt with a scarf. Always mascara.
2. Get up early. I know that for me to be at by best, I need quiet alone time before I see more humans or the singing begins (yes, Joel is an early morning singer, rapper, and poet. While its something I love about him, I need to sit quietly with my own thoughts and ideas first).
3. Make my bed. You know all of the things they say about this.
4. Have a plan. My plan includes ALL of the things. Work, family, household, dinner, appointments, etc. I have tried so many versions of this. Truth be told, I am a paper and pen kind of girl (I was a pencil girl for years and years but have recently discovered erasable pens and really, I am very colorful so I like this). I physically write out my plan and what needs to be accomplished. We can get into all of the ways I prep myself for my day, but it is constantly changing and that is a post all on its own. Basically, I try so many things, always looking for what fits me.
5. Examine and reflect. I am always looking to improve and I spend time reflecting on what works and what doesn't. This is an important rule to keep yourself moving forward.
6. Set mini goals. I give myself little goals, like..when I get through these three tasks, I can go switch the laundry. This serves two purposes. It helps motivate me to tackle things I may be dreading. It also helps you move from your desk. It’s so easy to get caught up and sit there all day.
7. Check emails at scheduled times. I‘m still working on this but it’s important to spend my day being proactive and being in email is reactive and it can consume your day if you aren’t careful!
Try new things. Pick up little bits to carry with you into your day, leave the ones that dont serve you well. Only you know what suits you best!